Why You Might Never Find True Love — And How to Deal With It

Have you ever asked yourself these questions?

Do people actually end up having love of their life? Is there such a thing as soulmates? Is it ok to choose or have a person in your life who loves you and is loved by you? Why do some people have a lover and love that person, and we don’t? Are they at fault, or is it our fault that we haven’t found the right person for ourselves? Is it important to love and be loved? Or is all of that an illusion? If it’s not a real thing, then why do I want it? What is the right thing to do, carry out responsibilities or find the love of your life?

Then you are not alone; we all struggle with these questions sometimes.

But what leads us to believe that having love is the most important thing in one’s life? Even though we seem to have no control over it?

Dare I say it’s the overconsumption of media that often loses touch with reality and has us dreaming about a fantasy of love, which is not even practical.

Everything wrong with mainstream media and social media:

I want to ask you a question! Can two people so deeply in love who happen to be together live a happy and fulfilling life without any dreams, passion, money or societal validation just because they are in love? In Bollywood or Hollywood representation, that may be possible, but in real life, I would prefer to disagree.

But the problem is that social media and mainstream media make us believe that “ finding true love” is the most important thing in life, and we soon lose touch with reality if we cannot cope with the lack of true love.

Why You Might Never Find True Love — And How to Cope with That:

But why won’t some people find true love in their lives?

I think the answer to this is very simple, the idea of true love in the modern world is very perfectionist. So maybe you love a person who doesn’t love you back! and it’s totally okay because it’s just how they feel. It should not affect your self-worth at all.

Or maybe someone else loves you romantically, but the thing with us humans is that we don’t want love from just anyone; we want love from the person we love.

Romantic Love is not the only type of love:

I totally understand the feeling of that one person not loving you back! But I’d like to ask you something! The fact that “ that one person doesn’t love you” does it change the :

Love of your friends who are always there for you and share silly jokes to make you feel better.

Love of your parents who, no matter what, care about you and want you to have the best life.

Love of your siblings who are always helping you out with everything.

And such countless people who are there for you and love you, are you going to think all of that is for nothing?

But I haven’t even talked about the most important type of love:

And that is your own love for yourself.

I know it sounds like a cliché, but some things are repeated so often because they hold a lot of importance. In practical life, it’s necessary to love yourself.

Because if you love yourself and know your worth, you wouldn’t let yourself fall back in life because of others’ decisions and you wont stop growing.

I’ll definitely talk more about self-love love but right now I would like to conclude this discussion with my all-time favourite Margaret Atwood quote:

“The desire to be loved is the last illusion. Give it up and you will be free.”

I know it seems cruel to give up on such an important thing, but believe me, you only get to truly see life when you give up your impractical desires and illusions.

Till next time!